Monthly Archives: January 2015

Addiction and Relationships

Hello again!  I hope these blogs are helping you to understand more about the DISEASE of ADDICTION.  It took me years of study to truly understand it, so I empathize with those of you who have loved ones suffering with their demons.  How you as a spouse, Mother, Father, sibling handle your relationship with an addict impacts them tremendously.  They may not care to show that while they are using, but your support through that time will definitely be rewarded once they are in recovery.  I know this from first hand experience with my own son.

Trust is probably the most touchy issue within this addiction dynamic.  You have probably lost all faith in the addict because of his or her lies and manipulations.  If your loved one is truly in recovery and working their 12 steps, then this would be the time to sit down and talk to them about exactly what they are doing to maintain their sobriety.  Yes, people, ASK QUESTIONS!!!  Communication is the key to success here as with any relationship.  They should now be ready to quietly and calmly talk to you about their reasons for using and how you may have impacted them during that time.

When you have this talk please BE PREPARED.  Before you sit down simply write a list of the questions.  Be patient with them as they answer and do not judge them for any criticism they may toss at you.  This should be a time of honest, open discussion, not bashing.

Finally, I would advise to be as loving and supportive of them now in their recovery as you can possibly be.  We tend to walk on eggshells while they are using as well as when they are sober.  Not necessary if you can talk frankly about how both of you truly feel, NOW.

Feel free to email me with any questions you may have about this topic at

Until next time… Be Blessed

What is a Recovery Coach?

Since becoming certified as a RECOVERY SUPPORT SPECIALIST I have included this into my practice for 2015. But a lot of people really don’t understand what a Recovery Coach does. So here is how I see it. Once a recovering addict has immersed his or herself into their new healthy lifestyle, these items should be in place: Schedule of AA, NA meetings, a Sponsor, scheduled therapy or group sessions. Any or all of these are crucial in sobriety maintenance. But what about the day to day items that come into play? Those things that do not revolve around the twelve steps or your emotional stability?  AHA! That is where I come in. Those daily challenges that you forgot about when using, such as: bill paying, budgets, writing a resume’ or even something as simple as scheduling the right amount of “ME” time. For a recovering addict the stresses of daily functions can be as overwhelming as any other major life issues. As a Recovery Coach we talk on a weekly basis about such items and work through how to get back and keep the order in your life that you have strived so hard to achieve. I will be another invaluable cog in your toolbox of recovery. I have dealt with addiction on many levels over the past 9 years, and have helped many clients throughout the world cope with a long list of life issues.  Let me help you stay on your path of sobriety and live the healthy, happy life you deserve!  Contact me today for your free online session: